November fires are burning bright, fighting with shadows and the fading light.

Home and Hearth

The inglenook today - 9th November 2009

I’ve been waiting for today all year. No, it’s not my birthday or that of a loved one. It’s not the end of some arduous year long task. It’s not even a specific date related thing at all. It’s the day when you have to find your hat, scarf and gloves before you go outside. The day when you thrill at living in a house with a wood-burning stove – the first really cold day of the year.

I should perhaps explain that ‘today’ has not always been so welcomed. When we first moved here five years ago, we had no heating at all. Now, while we had one large inglenook in the sitting room and uncovered another fireplace in the dining room, they were out of bounds – thatched cottages not really liking fires in unused, unswept, unlined chimneys. The old lady who had lived here before us, had survived by using an equally old, solid fuel Rayburn and as we didn’t fancy carbon monoxide poisoning either, that too was verboten. So for our first two winters we survived by using inefficient and expensive oil fuelled radiators and shared body heat. All very romantic apart from the thermals, hats, gloves and hot water-bottles.

After much hard labour and cunning slate tiling to hide some gruesome cast concrete, the wood burners were installed in the winter of our second year. Oh the wonder of heat! However, in order to keep the house warm all day a fair amount of fetching and carrying and ash emptying had to go on. Still at least you could watch TV without wearing a coat. The house finally seemed to come to life again and an ancient connection with centuries of previous inhabitants was restored.

Then I became pregnant. And with the bolshy, pragmatism that pregnancy bestows, demanded central heating. Unfortunately, as the cottage is listed it was not quite as straight forward as simply calling in a plumber. So things dragged on for longer than they should while we discussed various options with conservation officers and took photos and drew plans and filled out forms and waited and waited and waited. The boiler finally roared into the life on the 13th December 2007, the day before I went into labour and little Miss B appeared.

So now we live in luxury with heat at the touch of a button or the strike of a match. However, while I now take the central heating for granted, I still glow with elemental satisfaction every time I light the fire. Wood-burners are truly wonderful things. They fight off the chill and gloom of the shortest days. They can make you feel useful and efficient while just lounging around and feeding it the odd log. And as if any further proof of their superiority was needed, whoever heard of anyone ever sitting round a radiator to tell a story.

Inglenook - in the beginning

Moving day and just a little work to do.

Bags birds nests

8 bin bags full of birds nests that came out of the chimneys.

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So you’re the lady with the baby and the dog.

“Yes I am.”

Village gatherings offer many opportunities for pigeon-holing and I am as guilty as the next ‘Village Born and Bred’ or ‘Just Down from London’ for doing it. I’m not very good at filing but like everyone else, I reach for the obvious when labelling. And as I spend a good part of every day out walking the footpaths and lanes of the village with my baby and dog, I can only say that this a fair and true description. Still, it did rather stop me in my tracks.

Like most new Mums I have suffered, and still am suffering, from a bit of an identity crisis. It’s not so much that I long for my old, exciting, pre-baby self but more that I didn’t really have one to begin with (not one that can be easily dished out at a dinner party anyway). I am achingly jealous of those accomplished mothers that claim to be “taking a career break” or “having time out to concentrate on their family” – Gwyneth Paltrow this existential crisis is all your fault!

You see I was supposed to be a great success. I grew up haunted by the idea that “I don’t want to be a might have been.” Now while I’m sure that I have potential, I have so far failed to find the courage or the opportunity or the plain old fashioned work ethic, to make a go of things. I have opted for jobs rather than careers, so that I could concentrate on (daydream about) my writing. So the fact that I was labelled simply as ‘mother’ and ‘dog-owner’ hit on a very sore nerve indeed.

However, after stewing on this label for a few days, I began to see it differently. Rather than being another excuse to scoff a box of French Fancies and wonder why I haven’t won an Oscar, I realised that I am finally standing on some solid, maternal ground after years of drifting. I am definitely a mother and I definitely have a dog. They are beautiful, clever and charming and I am exceptionally proud of them both. So I may not have an Oscar (yet) but I AM the lady with the baby and the dog.

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The Season of Mellow Fruitfullness…hmmm

IMG_0008“Mature garden with vegetable plot and fruit cages to rear.”

Nearly five years later and we’re still battling with the dreaded Bind Weed and the evil Ground Elder. Still thankfully the health and safety hazard called a fruit cage has now gone.

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